From the Rabbi
The Joy of Yom Kippur
"Rabbi, what are you supposed to do on Yom Kippur if you haven't committed any sins?"
I actually got this question once. I have to admit that I was so dumbfounded by it that I didn't have a very good answer. In hindsight, though, I think the question reveals a very common misconception about the purpose and meaning of our Days of Awe and about the Jewish understanding of "sin."
In other religious traditions, a sin is something that will make God so angry at you that you are likely to suffer the punishment of eternal fire as a result. A sin, they say, is something you did that proves what a bad person you really are. It is your ticket to damnation.
However, that is not the way that Judaism understands sin. The Hebrew word for "sin" that we use most often during the Yom Kippur service is "chet" (with a "ch" that reminds you of the throat-clearing sound at the end of "Bach"). The only thing that a chet proves about you is that you are not perfect, you are human.
The word chet comes from a Hebrew root that means "to miss the mark." In Modern Hebrew, it is the word used to describe a basketball shot that bounces off the rim. A chet is something you did that you probably did not mean to do, but that caused someone some hurt. It might even be something you did that hurt yourself. When you forget to thank a friend for doing something kind for you, that is a chet. When you interrupt someone from speaking because you are too distracted to listen, that is a chet. When you get angry with yourself about events that are beyond your control, that is a chet, too.
A chet does not have to be a dire offense against God. Rather, it is something that robs you of your own happiness. It is something that moves you a step away from the joyful and harmonious life which -- in your heart of hearts -- you would truly wish for yourself. When we do that, we also move a step away from God.
This is why Yom Kippur -- the last of the ten Days of Awe -- is understood as a day of joy, not a day of punishment. Yom Kippur is the day on which we renew our commitment to do a better job in the way we treat other people and to do a better job of treating ourselves with compassion and kindness. It is the day on which we spend all of our energies in the pursuit of making ourselves the most fulfilled people that we are capable of being.
The challenge of the Days of Awe is not easy. We recognize just how much work we have to do to reach our goals. On the other hand, it is also a time to release ourselves from all of the pressure we put upon ourselves throughout the year. It is a time to recognize that we are, after all, human beings and that we are not expected to be perfect. It is a day to experience connection to a God who yearns for us to discover our own highest joy.
May you be written and sealed for a good year.
-Rabbi Jeffrey W. Goldwasser